Hey, Picky people! Today we have a guest post from my pal Carrie over at www.CarrieWillard.com. She has some fantastic tips for having fun with the kiddos on a budget–and as a mom to 7 kids, I think she’s on to something!
Like the Picky Pinchers, I’m died-in-the-wool frugal. My lifestyle differs from the Pinchers in that I am raising a large family – hubby and I have 7 kids, to be precise.
While my husband and I were getting out of debt a couple of years ago, we decided that we didn’t want our kids to suffer during the process, so “entertainment and fun” was a line item in the budget. We figured out a few ways to have fun with the kids on the cheap.
We’ve discovered that there is little relationship between what we pay for a good time and the enjoyment factor. A good movie is enjoyable whether it’s a free DVD from the library or a $100 (bye-bye, Benjamin!) expense at the fancy movie theater. Plus, the popcorn is so much better at home!
Things I don’t buy
First I’ll start with “fun” things I won’t buy for my kids, as a matter of principle.
I’ve never purchased an iPad, a laptop, a phone, a video game console or handheld gaming device. Ever. I believe that these devices do more harm to childhood than good, so I’m not obligated to use my income in pursuit of them.
As my kids have gotten older, they buy their own cell phones and the minutes for them. If it’s a priority, they’ll figure out a way to earn the money on their own. My 15-year-old has a penchant for drones, but a $200 RC helicopter is far less likely to get caught in a tree (or unwisely loaned to that irresponsible but fun friend) if he earned the money to pay for it himself.
Milk the public library for all it’s worth
Everybody knows the library is where you get free books to read, but the library has so many other options for free entertainment.
Complete TV series and movies on DVD, for example. Oddly, my family can never find a decent movie at RedBox, because they’re either too vulgar or violent, and the good ones are checked out. The library always has a ton of great selections, gratis!
Some libraries have day passes to local attractions such as the zoo or aquarium. (Attractions such as these can easily set my family back $200, just to get in the door.) They also offer a huge lineup of book clubs (some for teens), classes on everything from gardening to gaming, toddler story hour and fun and educational activities for everyone in between.
A recent win was Star Wars day. A visit with the local firefighter troup was also fun (even for mom – check out the biceps on that hunky fireman!).
Doing things outside helps prevent the “nature deficit disorder” experts are talking about these days. Little kids who spend a few hours outside each day eat better, sleep better, and behave better. Big kids also need the mood-boosting benefits of spending time in nature. When puberty is doing its moody gyrations, a long walk or bike ride outside, especially while hanging out with a loved parent, is an easy fix.
Get to know the hiking and biking trails in your area. Go camping, the cheapest vacation of all if you do it right (I’m referring to a tent on the ground, yo. It’s character-building for the modern softie.)
Camping always reminds me of how little kids need to be happy. My kids beg to go camping and I never bring toys or anything else to “do”, yet we have a blast just being together, hiking in the woods, building fires and enjoying the great outdoors.
My husband spent an entire summer on a campground once, and it was the best season of his childhood (my suspicion is that his parents were saving for a down payment for a house – I was tempted to do the same recently!).
Think in terms of fun investments
Most toys are easily broken and discarded quickly, not to mention garish in all their plastic, out-gassing glory (notable exceptions: LEGO and wooden blocks). When thinking of where to spend your entertainment dollars, think long-term investment.
Our trampoline gets used year round, every single day, by several children. It’s one of the best purchases we’ve ever made. Good quality yard sale bikes? Ditto. Our family has purchased yearly passes to some attraction and visited over and over, maximizing the value (since who can explore the entire zoo in a day without everyone melting down?).
A good swing set or play house (made with scrap materials or hauled away free courtesy of Craigslist) is also going to get tons of use. With teenagers, a large workspace with decent tools is great as it gives them a place to create. My eldest built a beautiful guitar from a hunk of wood.
Side point: nudge your kids towards hobbies of creation versus consumption. Crafting, writing, building things instead of shopping, gaming, watching stuff on screens. Spend money on art and other materials. Google “strewing” for more about this principle.
Get help from others
You sometimes hear parents complaining about the loud, obnoxious toys that seem to multiply in their house, courtesy of grandparents. I understand, I’m a minimalist myself and can’t stand all that clutter, but why not take advantage of their generosity? I never have to buy toys because my mom loves to do that for my young kids. If it gets to be too much, employ a toy library and rotate the stock.
If you make it known that you accept all hand-me-downs, you’ll also be inundated with good stuff (at least some of it). People love to give and often don’t want to go to the trouble of consignment shops or donating, but sometimes they’re worried about offending you. Therefore, I have a policy of never saying no. If I can’t use the bounty, I pass it along to someone else or quietly donate it. My family has received boxes and bags of good clothing, books, toys, even food, from generous souls.
Carrie Willard is a struggling minimalist in a house full of kids and husband. She writes about large family logistics, frugality, homeschooling, good books and being a wanna-be French girl walking barefoot at http://www.CarrieWillard.com